Wednesday, October 8, 2014

Helpful Tips For Effective Parenting

By Marlyn Parker


Being a parent can be a very confusing job, especially if you are not sure of what parenting strategies will work best to raise your kids. For instance, should you be more authoritarian or should you be more relaxed? The following will help you decide which strategy you would like to use as you parent your children. Many experts will tell you that the most effective style of parenting is authoritative parenting, which is different from authoritarian. Whereas the authoritarian parent expects children to obey unquestioningly, the authoritative parent sets clear rules, but at the same time allows children to ask questions and have some say in important matters. The authoritative parent seeks to be neither overly lenient or overly harsh. Parents who are authoritarian may end up with kids who have trouble making their own decisions, while very permissive parents often turn out kids who lack the necessary structure it takes to make them feel secure. There's nothing wrong with giving your kids freedom, but it has to be tempered with a recognition that they're still kids and need some limits.

As we all know, it is more stressful today than it has been in decades. This may be when your child is being particularly difficult, or maybe repeating a certain behavior you've told him countless times not to engage in. You might need to take a timeout, count to 10, and return to the situation with a different frame of mind.

Each child has the possibility and probability of reaching great heights in life, but this is stymied when parents ignore their kids or neglect them altogether. It is important to also realize that life can become very busy, so you need to find time and schedule it in for your kids or you will miss them as they grow up. A parent that shows up and does stuff with their kids, even if they don't know what they are doing, is someone that cares and wants their children to succeed.

There are definitely ways that you could change your child's behavior and get them to mind you a little better. One of the most effective ways to handle this is to give the child some choices. Any choice that you give your child will give them the power to make the right decision, something you want them to learn. Let's say you just planted your garden and your child is out there with the giant shovel.

Almost all of us know how to parent a child, but few of us learn how to do it very well. Most of us need to watch our tempers, and do our best to live up to standards that we expect our children to go by as well. The strategies outlined in this article should help you become a more loving parent with your children.




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